Tuesday, August 27, 2013

OPINION: ESE WALTER AND PASTOR FATOYINBO SEX SCANDAL

ESE WALTER AND PASTOR FATOYINBO SCANDAL: BETWEEN SCHADENFREUDE AND FAIR OPINION

I have taken a break from mass media for a while to take care of some personal projects. However, I have been so harangued by the sex scandal involving Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and Ese Walter that I think I should offer a word or two on it. Reading Ese Walter’s account on her personal blog, I couldn’t help but admire the courage with which she is learning to live her authentic life. However, it is quite unfortunate that many people have had their minds so beclouded with anger, jealousy or some other strong emotions that they have completely missed the point.

The volume of malicious words and degree of distortion on social media suggests that a good number of people are simply motivated by the desire to derive pleasure from other people’s misfortunes especially when such people are leaders, public figures or high achievers. We hear stories of someone missing the mark and we’re all too eager to nail the culprit and condemn the “sinner”, forgetting that in God’s courtroom, we’re either witnesses or advocates, not judges. Besides, history has proven time and time again that the most vehement critics are often guilty of greater transgressions either secretly or somewhere down the line. When we criticise and condemn people, it says more about us than it says about them.

Thankfully, the Bible does not hide the stories of great people like King David who committed adultery and aggravated it with murder in a bid to cover up. Yet, God forgave him as soon as he dealt with the issue. Even though he suffered great losses after the incident, he still occupies pride of place both in the Bible and in secular history. We have similar examples in contemporary times. To deny our tendency to transgress is to deny our humanity. When people fail or appear to fail, we should learn to accept their predicament with charity and equanimity, especially when such people are leaders and public figures. These people face challenges that are unknown to most of us. Our responsibility is to pray for them while supporting them on the path to recovery. It is not our prerogative to judge or condemn anyone. This does not mean that leaders are unquestionable. However, it is important that we free them to sort themselves out with the Ultimate Judge and the people that have been hurt by their actions.

I understand the anger, disappointment and frustration evoked by stories like this. However, I believe that we would do well to stop every form of vindictive remark and despiteful gossip against either party. Rather, let us address the situation in the spirit of the confessor whose self-professed goal is to bring healing to herself and deliverance to other people caught in a similar web. This is even more important in light of the fact that the plaintiff always seems convincing until the defendant comes to cross-examine him. It is too early to form a fair opinion on this issue as we have only heard one side of the story. And even if the other side confirms our fears, it does not in any way signal the end of Pastor Fatoyinbo’s ministry; neither does it pollute the credibility of the Gospel or dilute the authenticity of Christ’s message.

Philip Amiola is a teacher, writer and campaigner of empowerment. He writes from Lagos, Nigeria, blogs at philipamiola.org and tweets from @PhilipAmiola.
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Philip AMIOLA

9 comments:

  1. God bless you, you will continually increase in wisdom.

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  2. Thanks i share your opinion on this matter, i am not judging or condemning anyone but i can tell that the motive of Ese Walter is to destroy the personality and ministry of the so called man of God. I don't know the pastor nor the girl but from her story, even if she said the truth i sensed she chose to expose d pastor maybe because she was replaced. This affair wasn't a one time thing it went on for some time and yet she said "she was molested and victimised" Please Ese What are your Motives? Can you stand before God and say your conscience is clear on this matter? Is this the greatest of all your dirty secrets? PLEEASSSSSSSSSSSE sister

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  3. Dear mr phillip well prepared speech at least in favour of whoever but remember we talk abt david today becos he is after God's heart who knew how to worship God and not becos his rising and falling and u mentioned- we all are to be Christlike so much so for a PASTOR who are supposed to be role models - did God not give a law on fornication and adultery? If a pastor who is supposed to preach and act it is doing it what then do u expect of his congregation? You even had time to say its a one sided story - an adage says the food u will not eat you won't smell, if he didn't do it I guess she won't want to blackmail him - u consider the trauma and shame the wife will be now that is if he has one - that is why ppl no longer take christianity serious again - u see ppl tied with charms around their waiste in church and they tell u God will understand, quoting heaven helps those who help themselves - my dear pray for them in your secrets as God did not also send u to make your own blog out of the story

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  4. It is surprising that you dwell more on Ese's motive for confession rather than deal with the sin commited by this man of God! The bible says he who covereth his sin will not prosper! If it is not true why has he not defended himself but has kept mum! It is unfortunate should we applaud sin just because of grace? If he did it the honourable thing to do is confess before his congregation as the bible requires and step down and deal with his issues rather than covert his sins! Ese did the right thing! It is not about spoiling his ministry its about putting an end to this corrupytion in the midst of bretheren!

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  5. Fake pastor repent

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  6. Fake pastor repent

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  7. Spirit world operation! Devil Ladd!

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  9. There is a sermon preached by man of God dat if snake should bite someone it is not d size of d snake in question but d venom that has entered into d person yes d man of God has sinned he has done bad thing n he has been exposed let's pray for his total deliverance many of us has done something worst like telling lies wether big or small ,steal even in d house of God wether directly or indirectly,gossip about others n we think this is no sin my bro n sis this is equally a venom that has to be dealt with so,while crucifying d man of God let's crucify ourselves also don't get me wrong I'm not in surport of sin but d truth be told those who has never sin let him cast d ist stone peace

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