Tuesday, February 26, 2013

It Has Been Bad Luck And Frustration Since I Married My Wife, Should I Divorce Her?

I got married about 4 years ago to a lady I courted for about 2 yrs. Since then we’ve not had a child, and it has naturally become a source of worry as my parents have not hidden their concern at all.

Now, as a born again christian, I believe in totality that children come from God and he alone gives at his time, but I also know that the bible commands us to ask, seek and knock and that he that asks, receives. But my frustration in this whole thing is the wife I married.

Firstly, for strange reasons, ten months after marrying her, I lost my job of 12yrs, and since then I’ve been struggling to make ends meet. I must thank God for his goodness and mercies all the way. At least there has been no reason to beg anyone.

Secondly, she has strangely refused to support any effort I try to make for progress. She sees things differently with no better alternative to bring on the table and each time I go ahead, she wants it to fail. She’s a graduate who has also refused to do anything for flimsy reasons, not liking a business type, lacks interest in her certificate, and is not even willing to teach as an educationist.

And for these reasons, we have remained almost always at loggerheads.

Thirdly, all the efforts to find solution to our childlessness has been frustrated by her.

She has refused us exhausting medical options insisting that the problem is spiritual. And on the spiritual options, she has been half-heartedly involved.

My parents invited us for prayers with a man of God, we got there on my insistence at least to honour them and she ended up embarrassing everyone including my parents as she vehemently refused to stay back for prayers as advised by the man, and even accusing me of ganging up with them!

That was October last year. Even if she didn’t believe the man as she claimed, I thought she should have been polite and respectful about it. Needless to say, my parents have been hurt with her actions since then and wish I can just divorce her.

Most frustrating for me is that presently, I’m observing a month long fasting and prayer period. Even though she claims to be fasting and praying too, she has refused to go with me for prayers in Church for once.

Please advice me on what to do as various thoughts keep running through my mind…I am still very young and i think letting a woman who’s mindset is far below my ambitions will be doing harm to my future.


  1. Though divorce is bad,but u need to d right thing.U can see that she doesn't have ur interest at heart,God alone gives children,with fervent prayers and a contrite heart he will see u through.

  2. My dear,may be she is possessed cos I know someone that displayed such trait,after tormenting d man she packd her belongings nd fled.Call in a pastor nd take her unaware,whether she likes it or not she needs prayers,then watch her to check 4 changes,if any,give her another chance,if none u should be able to know what to do.

  3. Those are" ogbanje"signs,she needs deliverance ASAP.It is well.

  4. U̶̲̥̅̊Ʀ wife needs deliverance nuffin more just be prayerful God ll see U̶̲̥̅̊ 2ru,Ʊ can take her †☺ SCOAN T.B.Joshua's church or by watching emmanuel tv. α̲̅πϑ have faith.have seen so many cases like urs being delivered at T.B.Joshua's church.

  5. My brother the best thing to do is to send her away b4 you die b4 ur time,she is a angel of Satan try'n to torment u and c if u can live Jesus since u are a believer and find anoda source of her problems not yourz cuz am rejecting it for you,

  6. My brother, d sooner u decide on wat to do , d better for, leave pity out of dis, I av a friend like dat who is married to a delivish woman, she frustrates all his efforts, e left a well paid job,she hasn't gotten any kids for him yet n has refused to look for solutions to dis issues, she wasn't ready to do Anytin dat cld help her hubby bring food to the table,even when her inlaws offered to start up a business for her, eventually the man deceived her n left for his country here in africa, n wen it dawned on her dat d hubby AD absconded, she sold off dia properties n went looking for d husband o, she found him in his country, and its been hell since for the man, he wants to divorce her now. I tink she has dis ogbanje spirit disturbing her. Sum spouses are jus dere to frustrate dia partners, abeg scamper for ur life o